Stop Bullying...

I wanted to blog about bullying today after watching the “STOP BULLYING” special edition of BET's 106th & Park last night. Many people young and old don’t realize the influence that you can have on a person's life and their future. I remember when I was in junior high school and I was bullied by a girl who was bigger and taller then me… now i'm 5’2 y'all, so can you only imagine how short I was back then. She would threaten me, argue with me and bump me in the halls for no reason every chance she got. One day I got tired of it and I remember bringing one of my mother’s kitchen knives to school and I remember saying to myself “If she bothers me today I’m using it”. Fortunately, I don’t even think I saw her that day. I went home and immediately put the knife back in the drawer before my mom found out that I took it. Eventually, I told my mom and dad what was going on at school and they took action and went to the school to meet with the principal and to setup a meeting with the her parents. The girl’s mom didn’t even bother or even attempt to come to meet my parents because she knew what kind of child she had and she didn't want to deal with it. After the meeting with my parents, the bullying stopped she never bothered me again and I was happy and relieved that I told my parents. Sometimes I think about what would have happened if I would have used that knife? I wasn't even that type of kid but at the time I felt like I was pushed to my limit. I was scared to talk to my parents because I didn’t want to be known as a snitch or look like a punk. When your young, you don’t think about the consequences of your actions you just react. If I would have stabbed that girl who knows what the outcome would have been... I’m happy that everything turned out fine and I never ever did anything like that again. My example just gives you a minor glipmse of how far bullying can go.

Today, bullying has gotten worse due to technology. Twitter & Facebook can be used in so many positive ways but people are using these social networks negatively to harass and bully friends, celebrities and people they don’t even know. They call it “CyberBullying”.

The panel on 106th and Park mentioned some great points last night regarding the different reasons why bullying starts and how it affects different individuals and I just wanted to mention a few:

The Effects of being bullied
  • Depression
  • Suicide
  • Complex
  • Low Self-Esteem
Why individuals bully
  • No intimacy
  • Lack of things
  • Chaos in the home
  • Domestic violence
  • Rage of being bullied at home
If you ever feel these ways talk to someone. The worse thing to do is HOLD these bad feelings inside. Even though the problem seems bigger then you, believe me you can get HELP. If you don’t want to talk to someone you know, use the Internet to look up different sources online that you can write to or call the help is there…

If your not doing something about it your part of the problem...


Churece Nichol said...

Wow never knew that happened to u. I had the opposite happen to me. You know I'm tall so people always expected ne to be a bully. But I was a nerd. Thee was this girl who was like 4'10 (literally no lie) who used to bother me ( mind u I'm 5'11) and she would pick at me all the time and j just took it because I knew how much bigger than her I was and that if I reacted her mother might try to have me in jail or something. I was scared to tell because I knew people would laugh at me but finally I told my parents and my mom had to come up to the school and it finally stopped but its nothing like carrying all ur books cause u don't want to go to your locker cause she would be waiting or skipping lunch cause she would follow me every where.

Mrs. Jarette said...

People think just because you are tall you can't get bullied but then you have kids who tease you about that it's a lose lose situation.

Gabrielle said...

I know all too well how much bullying can hurt. I was a victim of it as a little girl and I suffered major insecurity issues for a very long time. I was also a victim of cyberbullying by girls who were supposed to be my friends and it took my so long to get over it. People don't realize how bad words can hurt...

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